Depression and the cost of disconsidering it

Opening Facebook and seeing the news that Chester Bennington, a seemingly normal lead singer, took his own life, might leave people in a state of shock and rightfully so. This state of shock however has two sides. Some people are shocked because their favorite lead singer from their favorite band has committed suicide. While others might be shocked, or even disgusted, that Chester took his own life, because he has everything a person could ever dream of. And while it’s been a few days since the event, what I’m about to talk about is still valid.

Here’s the problem with the second group of people. Chester DIDN’T have everything, he was clearly missing something! And NO ONE who commits suicide has everything they need, because if that were true, they wouldn’t resort to suicide. You know what he probably might have had though? A crippling state of anxiety and depression, since as I’ve read, Chester himself has stated that he was abused as a child and that he never really got over it, the thought of a suicide having occured to him in the past.

And while I don’t have a long list of things that trigger me, people mocking or disconsidering depression is probably at the top of things. Not because I have suffered from it, but because of the way it is dismissed as a hissy fit by your average person.

May the Heavens have mercy on your soul if you work in a corporation and have the balls to complain about your job. Why do I say that? Because the general reaction is usually something like this: “ugh, why do you complain, you have money, you have a great job and you can buy all sorts of stuff that others can’t, stop being a little b***h and be grateful, you ungratefeul s**t”. Yeah, because money and material possessions are the be-all end-all of things, even though travelling and experiences have been proven to be much more rewarding than any gadget you may buy (source). And yes, I’m fully aware you need money in order to travel, but that’s why low-cost airlines and regular-priced hotels exist.

And no, telling people who contemplate suicide (which is really never obvious, since it’s something that’s eating them from the inside) or anyone who complains about stuff in general that they “have everything” is NOT a good thing to do. Because it’s obvious that they DON’T have everything. Seriously, do you actually think that celebrities have everything? They have money and fame sure, but do you know what they also have? Stalkers, zero privacy, stupid people that spout s**t at them because…reasons, and quite possibly a very depressing back-story, as is the case with Chester and so many others. What these people don’t have is anyone’s guess, but I hate this shallow way of thinking in which if a person is rich and famous, he automatically must be happy.

Actually, telling anyone who complaing even a bit that they shouldn’t complain because they have it better than others is a seriously sh***y thing to do to anyone, regardless of their social status. You can’t possibly be happy all the time and there are some studies that actually state the fact that constantly being happy may be bad for you (source). People are allowed to complain. You want to know what the effect of telling someone not to complain is? He’ll probably end up feeling bad about complaining, then try to overlook all the s**t that happens to him at work or whatever, can’t do it because it’s really bad, then end up feeling even worse because of his inability to be happy in his current condition, which is deemed as a very good one by people who have NO IDEA WHAT THE PERSON IS GOING THROUGH!

There was this radio DJ from a local station I listen to that said that another things that might cripple an artists’ morale is reading hateful comments on the Internet from fans. I really don’t think that’s much of a big deal, at least for some artists. I mean I can’t imagine James Hetfield of Metallica or other rock or pop artists such as Taylor Swift, Katy Perry, Sia etc giving two damn sh**s about what their haters say to them, but I guess it differs from one person to another. In Chester’s case, I think the backlash the band has recieved with the release of their latest album had gotten to him a lot more than one would expect, but with one of his best friends also killing himself earlier this year, I kind of understand why he might be taken aback by some negative reviews (the friend in question is Chris Cornell).

In the end (pun not intended), what I’m trying to say is that people need to rid themselves of the shallow way of thinking that money and fame are synonymous with happiness or that having the “dream job” of being a screw in a large company and getting screwed all the time equals happiness, becaue it doesn’t. Some people complain for the f**k of it, while others actually have legitimate reasons to complain. Next time, LISTEN, and DON’T JUDGE!

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